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The biggest difference between drunk and sober dating was that now I never kissed or slept with a guy unless I wanted to. Sometimes I did agree to meet a date at a bar. If he asked why I wasn't drinking, I had a few responses ready that I'd learned from other people in recovery: We'd been seeing each other for two weeks and I felt ready. He had a couple of beers at his apartment and I snacked on Halloween candy.

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I promised myself I wouldn't put him on a pedestal or make him the center of my life. However, the chance of that person relapsing can also be very high. One of her exes eventually overdosed and died. Dating a fellow addict can feel a bit like betting with the odds against you. We get so many amazing tools in the program, and if you take them and run with them, then you can be a stellar human and the best version of yourself possible. It's very black and white. They may well be using other ways to 'act out' now that using or drinking is off the table.

Many people, when they finally get sober, develop issues with food, gambling, sex, and spending. It takes a lot of work and a lot of time to squelch it in all its myriad forms. And, shockingly, I didn't stay sober. She also finds that leaving behind your addict identity can be helpful. He sees me as a smart, fun, sexy, loving mom who doesn't drink and who has changed her life. He's not really interested in the details.